If We’re Being Honest: Time Management + Goals

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This is going to be one of those word-vomit posts. You know the ones. Sometimes it’s good to just let yourself spill your thoughts completely uncategorized, unfiltered. This Christmas season came fast and I know that it is part of why I feel like there has been no time to think about or do anything. We have been constantly on the go and the days that have been spent at home were spent feeling under the weather. I am mostly blaming the busy time of year for the lack of time I’ve had to spend on anything – but if I’m being honest with myself – this is something I struggle with year round. I have a lot of things on my to-do list but I rarely tick them off because I’m constantly just trying to get through each day. The scary part is that I keep thinking I’m going to be better in 2015 – I’m going to be prepared for this baby, I’m going to meal plan, we’re going to be crazy awesome with our finances, we’re going to get all of our house projects done, I’m going to WORK HARD on my Pure Romance business, etc. But if I haven’t been doing these things over the past few months or the past year – what am I going to change in order to make them happen with a new baby? I know I have a few months to work this out and get myself on track but I know that I have to start now. And I know that I can’t keep doing what I’m doing if I expect things to change. Because what is the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. Clearly, I have been living an insane lifestyle.

It’s time to set goals and to meet them.

Goals for January 2015:

♥ Make a complete list of what Nate and I plan to buy for baby boy and what we plan to register for.
♥ Make a list of every detail for the nursery and complete one task every weekend.
♥ Have 5 Pure Romance parties in January – call potential hostesses daily, give out samples/business cards, and be generally excited about my business! Because I AM!!
♥ Pay my car payment with Pure Romance earnings.
♥ Keep a detailed planner for bills and all important dates.
♥ Make a list every evening of what absolutely needs to be done the next day allotted hour by hour.
♥ Meal plan and only eat out ONCE for the entire month. (this one freaks me out.. but we can do it!)

I’m keeping it simple for now as to not add too much to my plate, but these are the things I want to accomplish in January no matter what! These are completely obtainable and I will keep myself accountable by posting them here.

Do you do anything special regarding time management and achieving your goals? I would love to hear you tips!!

Goals in 2014

I made a simple list of goals at the beginning of 2014 that I kept to myself. In the past I’ve made my list of goals for the new year well in advance and ready to blog; long lists full of big ideas that usually end up somewhat accomplished but mostly half-assed. I love making lists – so much so that I can’t keep up with all of them. This year I wanted to be more realistic and so far? Well, I feel like I’m on the right track…

1. Be kind to yourself.
2. Do the things that scare you most.
3. Spend your time on people who spend their time on you.
4. Accept that things don’t always turn out the way you want them to.
5. Be confident in yourself.

This past month I’ve done these 5 things more than I ever have. I’ve been kind to myself by thinking positive thoughts and taking time to myself when I need it. I’ve done some pretty scary (to me) things lately too, and I did them with confidence. I’ve been spending my time on the people who spend time on me. And I’ve really been focusing on accepting when things just aren’t meant to be – an especially important lesson this week. I know that this is all kind of a vague post – and that can be really annoying. But it’s just a little something I wanted to write down and put out in the universe: I’m doing better, I’m getting better, I can do the things I thought I couldn’t do.

26 Before 27: Learning the Art of Aerial Silks

(photo credit: Groupon for a place here in Lexington offering classes. I almost immediately hit “Buy” – but then I started to think about it a little more.

The wheels turned in my mind: I have almost no upper body strength – I’m going to be horrible at this! OR what if I fall in love with it after a few classes? It will be EXPENSIVE if I want to continue doing it after my 5 classes are over. And then I realized that this is the reason why I don’t do anything for myself. I overanalyze everything. I take things too seriously. I ‘what if’ everything to the point that I can’t decide on anything, I get frustrated, and say NEVER MIND. I drive Nate bonkers with this kind of stuff because he simply decides to do things and then he does them. So after telling him about it and receiving some encouraging words I decided I have to try it. There is no doubt that it will be difficult. I’m in no way delusional about how this will start out at first – frustrating and very probably, painful. Haha. But I can stick with it for at least 5 classes! I’m hoping a friend will go with me. Though I’m pretty sure she’ll be a natural with her history as a dancer/gymnast and I’ll be over there flopping around and trying to hang on. ;]

So, this is the first addition to my “26 Before 27″ list and I’m well on my way to achieving it. I think this will be a fun and hilarious journey to take you guys along with me on so stay tuned! In the mean time… I’m going to go do some pull ups and attempt to delude myself into thinking that I’m going to eventually quit my day job and join the circus. The circus without clowns… because.. you know.. Nate hates clowns.

Have you ever tried anything like this? I’d love to hear all about it!!

Sweet Summer Time & Dreams

Nate and I have been daydreaming a lot lately about the future and what it might hold. I think that getting married young can be tricky – so worth it when you know it’s right – but still tricky! We’ve both developed new interests and created so many new goals for ourselves during our short 3 years of marriage. We’re extremely supportive of one another – so it works! But I just find it so interesting how so much can change. I feel like we’ve accomplished what so many couples our age are working so hard toward – we have a great marriage, our own home, and jobs that pay the bills (not our dream jobs, but jobs none the less). Building our own home was a dream come true and it feels like we should be settled – content to stay here forever. But what if we want to move? What if our dreams take us somewhere else? I’m not saying that will happen but it just feels crazy to even think about the possibility of it.

There is always that possibility though – for any of us! We get out of life what we put in and if there is something that you want – just you know, go get it (within reason, obviously y’all). Every time I visit my home town I am told by any number of people that they’re so proud of me for “getting out”, like I accomplished some wildly unattainable goal that NO ONE ELSE can figure out how to accomplish. I’m not saying it’s just THATEASY to up and move, or that it isn’t scary, or that you shouldn’t plan ahead. Maybe you’ll have to plan for years for it to even be feasible – money doesn’t grow on trees, at least not where I’m from! I’m not saying just get in your car and drive away – but you can make plans toward the things you want and make smart choices, right? No one has chained you to your town, bad relationships, or your crappy job. And just because Nate and I feel like we have many of the things that should make us happy forever, it doesn’t mean that there isn’t actually something just as equally great (if not better) waiting somewhere else! That’s the great thing about life. =)

I hope that my ramblings didn’t come off sounding as if I think it’s simple to have any ol’ thing you want out of life if you just will it into existence. I know that isn’t the case. But I do think too many of us are so paralyzed by fear of something different that we can’t even see that we actually have other choices – and that is what I’m talking about here. I am guilty of that fear, and so I’m challenging myself to have a little faith in our dreams even when they seem a little nuts! Have a great Saturday everyone!